the most loving, connected and fulfilling


-Shani Chen


Each year, an overwhelming number of marriage separations surface across nations around the globe, and according to author, Shani Chen, that is one of the greatest tragedies to affect mankind. In her own words, she states: "I want to tell the world that having a successful marriage is not hard. It may be hard at first, but it's not meant to stay that way. It gets easier and is completely achievable... as long as you have the right mind-tools." She is driven to help others succeed in an area that has proven to be so difficult for so many because she simply cannot bear to see families broken up and love stories shattered when it could all be prevented so easily.

If Nuns Were Wives is a book that shows the everyday woman how to have a fulfilling, loving, dedicated, and successful marriage using a perspective that might surprise you—the perspective of a nun. Chen was once an aspiring nun who is now married. She discovered that the skills she learned in preparing to enter the nunnery are actually applicable in a marriage.


In an unconventional way of delivering relationship advice, Chen takes you on a journey into the monastery—transcending dogma and religion—and makes the role of the American wife the new holy temple for relationships. Using simple and easy-to-understand language, she guides you to not only find peace in your home, but to be utterly adored and revered by your spouse.

Why Do Marriages Fail?

Every year, an overwhelming number of marriage separations surface across nations all around the globe. But if people are so deeply in love when they marry, then why do marriages fail?

The answer lies here: each person carries an incredible amount of emotional baggage. This includes all the trauma, wounds and pain accrued since childhood.


In the dating process, these afflictions rarely come out. But when two people are made to live with each other in a small space, all of the emotional problems come tumbling out.


This is the starting point of where relationships crumble and why anger and hatred are so easily bred in the home. People do not have the means to properly deal with these monstrous afflictions that destroy loving marriages.

Meet Shani Chen

Shani Chen knows that any marriage can be saved no matter what state it is in.


Also dubbed The Married Nun, Shani Chen has found a unique antidote for treating marriages that are in trouble. She took everything she learned from the nuns over the course of almost two decades, and translated them into the home setting.


With the same tenacity that the nuns used for spiritual practice, she used for marriage and found that every single problem in the home can be solved.


She is a recognized marriage expert with numerous years of experience, and is also the author of If Nuns Were Wives.

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